Reading Notebook #28: Happiness Without Close Relationships

Solitude by Anthony Storr

From Solitude by Anthony Storr:

Many fortunate people do make intimate relationships which continue until death, and which constitute their major source of happiness. But even the closest relationship is bound to have flaws and disadvantages, and it is often because people do not accept this that they are more unhappy than they need to be, and more inclined to abandon one another. If it is accepted that no relationship is ever ideal, it makes it easier to understand why men and women need other sources of fulfillment. As we have seen, many creative activities are predominantly solitary. They are concerned with self-realization and self-development in isolation, or with finding some coherent pattern in life. The degree to which these creative activities take priority in the life of an individual varies with his personality and talents. Everyone needs human relationships; but everyone also need some kind of fulfillment which is relevant to himself alone. Provided that they have friends and acquaintances, those who are passionately engaged in pursuing interests which are important to them may achieve happiness without having any very close relationships.

Posted in Friendship, Life Philosophy, Love, Reading.

Jane Friedman (@JaneFriedman) has 20 years of experience in the publishing industry, with expertise in digital media strategy for authors and publishers. She is the co-founder and editor of The Hot Sheet, the essential newsletter on the publishing industry for authors.

In addition to being a columnist for Publishers Weekly, Jane is a professor with The Great Courses, which released her 24-lecture series, How to Publish Your Book. Her book for creative writers, The Business of Being a Writer (University of Chicago Press), received a starred review from Library Journal.

Jane speaks regularly at conferences and industry events such as BookExpo America, Digital Book World, and the AWP Conference, and has served on panels with the National Endowment for the Arts and the Creative Work Fund. Find out more.

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Reading Notebook #28: Happiness Without Close Relationships | Jane ……

Here at World Spinner we are debating the same thing……

john kelly
john kelly

woody allen – as alvy singer:
I thought of that old joke, y’know, the, this… this guy goes to a psychiatrist and says, “Doc, uh, my brother’s crazy; he thinks he’s a chicken.” And, uh, the doctor says, “Well, why don’t you turn him in?” The guy says, “I would, but I need the eggs.” Well, I guess that’s pretty much now how I feel about relationships; y’know, they’re totally irrational, and crazy, and absurd, and… but, uh, I guess we keep goin’ through it because, uh, most of us… need the eggs.
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Jane Buttery

Writing is a solitary occupation but, for me, it comes out of experiences in life that I’ve had with children and from discussions with adults I value. I write for children mainly and it can be fulfilling as long as parents feel it’s worth buying the books!

Jane Buttery

I forgot to add my site http://www.truestorybooks.com and most of my books come out of the S.W. Ontario region in which I live. I also write a blog about life story writing at http://www.janebuttery/wordpress.com

Pamelarwinnick
Pamelarwinnick

I so identify. I’m married but write nine hours a day. I miss the intellectual women friends I had in NYC. I now live in the intellectual wasteland knowns as Pittsburgh.