From “How to Know It’s Real Love” by Martha Beck, in Oprah magazine.
Buddha once said that just as we can know the ocean because it always tastes of salt, we can recognize enlightenment because it always tastes of freedom. There’s no essential difference between real love and enlightenment. While many people see commitment as a trap, its healthy versions actually free both lovers, bring out the flavor of their true selves, and build a love that is satisfying, lasting, and altogether delicious.
A nice companion piece, also by Martha Beck: “How to Love More By Caring Less” (very Buddhist in its approach as well).