Drinking, Writing, and Self-Discovery

Drinking Diaries: Women Serve Their Stories Straight Up

More than a year ago, I participated in a Q&A over at the Drinking Diaries website, which is a forum for women to share, vent, express, and discuss their drinking stories without judgment.

It was a fun experience and many wonderful comments came through, plus a couple people bluntly said they didn’t want to know the personal side of me—stick to professional writing and publishing advice, please.

So, fair warning, the Q&A veers away from professional writing advice. And so does the book I was asked to contribute to.

Drinking Diaries is an anthology of essays about women and drinking, edited by Leah Odze Epstein & Caren Osten Gerszberg, and published by Seal Press this month. I’m proud to say I’m a contributor, along with other remarkable women such as Jacquelyn Mitchard, Daphne Merkin, Kathryn Harrison, Ann Hood, Ann Leary, Pam Houston, Elissa Schappell, Asra Nomani, Priscilla Warner, Rita Williams, and Joyce Maynard.

My essay is dead last in the collection. Titled “Drinking as Genuine Vocation,” here’s a snippet from the middle:

I’ve always secretly thrilled at the thought that Alan Watts, a great enlightened person and spiritual teacher—admired by many—likely drank himself to death. I think it’s because alcohol helped him, like it helps me, focus on the ecstasy of what’s just right here, and to dig into the essence of life in this very moment, without the echo chamber of the mind going on and on and on. I feel more myself, without hang-ups, without getting stuck. I observe it all the more deeply and feel it all more acutely—and in this, perhaps I am like every other desperate writer, looking for the next remarkable thought.

William James said, “One of the charms of drunkenness unquestionably lies in the deepening sense of reality and truth which is gained therein. In whatever light things may then appear to us, they seem more utterly what they are, more ‘utterly utter’ than when we are sober.”

Drinking Diaries is now available as a paperback or e-book. Visit Amazon and read a sample chapter.

Share on:
Subscribe
Notify of
guest

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

30 Comments
oldest
newest most voted
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
John R Tomlinson

There’s something very endearing about this, it just makes me smile.

Terry Mominee

This is a tricky subject, drinking, and requires a certain amount of self-confidence and inner strength to approach. I admire the openness it took for everyone in the book to bring that project about, their willingness to bare a part of themselves that a lot of people will be uncomfortable with. Alcohol and other such substances have been used by creative types for milennia to loosen the shackles of their minds or to escape (for whatever reason). Personally, I wonder if many are able to keep from crossing the fine line of controlling or being consumed, and whether that final step of “loosening” would truly make the difference between writing something great or phenomenal. If truly phenomenal writing is inside you, it seems to me that surely it would only need to be set free once for the writer to realize it exists and to run with it. I guess it depends on how internally uptight you are. At any rate, kudos to all!

Jane Friedman

Thanks for the thoughtful comment, Terry! Indeed, the entire anthology is pretty incredible in its honesty—and in the range of experiences it presents.

Ruth Crocker

I love your honest and positive approach to this subject which is often so feared, maligned and abused at least in American culture.

Jane Friedman

Yes, it’s nice to take guilt, fear, and shame out of the equation.

Darrelyn Saloom

My copy has shipped, and I can’t wait!

Jane Friedman

Thanks, Darrelyn. 🙂

David Mark Brown

Very interesting snippet. Insightful. I’ve always lived in places like Salt Lake City and Bible belt. Didn’t start drinking until nearly 30. I do it alone or with one trusted friend who I know will help me gain the most from the experience. If I get hung in a manuscript during the day it almost always works itself out with some booze at night as i gain insight into the characters. I think it is the “utterly utter.”

Jane Friedman

Ditto for me — not until 30.

Sam Lowe

It’s lunchtime. I should order my three martinis now, if I want to be my best for the end of the day…

andy kubrin

Very interesting. I loved the William James quote. Also loved your line about writers looking for the next remarkable thought–that’s us!

Jane Friedman

Yep, the whole essay kind of started with that kernel, in fact!

Shirley Sorbello

I read more of your essay on Amazon and so totally relate to it. I will enjoy reading it on Kindle tonight!

Jane Friedman

Thanks for reading!

Ellen Roddick

Excellent. I will order the book and locate the website. Will now write my own drinking story, too. Thanks.

Jane Friedman
jrt

Your one of my friends I haven’t met.