Sheila Van Noy

When Mom Was My Age (#22)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Sheila Van Noy, interviewed by daughter Nikki Van Noy (age 33). From daughter Nikki When mom was 33, there were no cell phones, computers, or […]

Mary Carolyn Steffen Carlson (age 46 & age 73)

When Mom Was My Age (#21)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Mary Carolyn Steffen Carlson (now age 73), interviewed by daughter Stephanie Carlson Curtis (age 46). Where did you live when you were my age (46)? […]

Andrea King Collier

When Mom Was My Age (#20)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Andrea King Collier (author of Still With Me: A Daughter’s Journey of Love and Loss), who is interviewed by her daughter, Nicole Collier, a broadcast […]

Solitude by Anthony Storr

Reading Notebook #28: Happiness Without Close Relationships

From Solitude by Anthony Storr: Many fortunate people do make intimate relationships which continue until death, and which constitute their major source of happiness. But even the closest relationship is bound to have flaws and disadvantages, and it is often because people do not accept this that they are more unhappy than they need to be, […]

Peggi Colleen Gibson Tattoli

When Mom Was My Age (#19)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Peggi Colleen Gibson Tattoli (now age 47), interviewed by daughter Chantel Tattoli (age 22). From Chantel When my mother and I catch sight of each other, […]

Margaret Malone & Mom

When Mom Was My Age (#18)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Sue Malone, by daughter Margaret Malone (age 36). Where did you live? I was living in Mill Valley, Calif., with my husband and you, our […]

Chief Culture Officer

Study Slow Culture, Not Just Fast

When I attended TEDxCincy in October 2010, there was one session where I was furiously taking notes: the session by Grant McCracken, author of Chief Culture Officer. Click here to find out more about the fascinating McCracken. [For more on my so-so experience of TEDxCincy, read “7 Lessons for Delivering a Powerful Message.”] So, here’s […]

Solitude by Anthony Storr

Reading Notebook #27: What to Do When Your Existence May Need to Be Reappraised

From Solitude by Anthony Storr: The capacity to be alone is a valuable resource when changes of mental attitude are required. After major alterations in circumstances, fundamental reappraisal of the significance and meaning of existence may be needed. … Changes of attitude take time because our ways of thinking about life and ourselves so easily become […]

Gaby Levine (at age 48 & in 2010)

When Mom Was My Age (#17)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Gaby Levine, interviewed by daughter Becky Levine (age 48). From daughter Becky My mother started writing her memoirs a few years ago, so when I […]

C.G. Jung

Reading Notebook #26: Difficulties Are Necessary for Health

From C.G. Jung’s The Transcendant Function: Collected Works: The new attitude gained in the course of analysis tends sooner or later to become inadequate in one way or another, and necessarily so, because the flow of life again and again demands fresh adaptation. Adaptation is never achieved once and for all. … In the last […]

C.G. Jung

Reading Notebook #25: Accepting the Positive and the Negative

From an essay by C.G. Jung, where he quotes a patient: Out of evil, much good has come to me. By keeping quiet, repressing nothing, remaining attentive, and by accepting reality—taking things as they are, and not as I wanted them to be—by doing all this, unusual knowledge has come to me, and unusual powers […]

Solitude by Anthony Storr

Reading Notebook #24: Our Life at the Office Is (In Fact) Important

From Solitude by Anthony Storr: Human beings need a sense of being part of a larger community than that constituted by the family. The modern assumption that intimate relationships are essential to personal fulfillment tends to make us neglect the significance of relationships which are not so intimate. … The fact that a man is […]

Mary with daughter Meg (age 35 & age 62)

When Mom Was My Age (#16)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Mary Gerritsen, interviewed by daughter Meg Canada (age 35). From daughter Meg My mom is 62 and she’s been married to my dad for 42 […]

The Man Without Qualities

Reading Notebook #23: Why Things Are the Way They Are

From The Man Without Qualities by Robert Musil: “At this moment he wished to be a man without qualities. But this is probably not so different from what other people sometimes feel too. After all, by the time they have reached the middle of their life’s journey few people remember how they have managed to […]

Amelia B's mother

When Mom Was My Age (#15)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with the mother of Amelia B. (age 43).               From daughter Amelia I am 43 and my mother is 72. I […]

Katie Urbani

When Mom Was My Age (#13)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Katie Urbani, interviewed by her daughter Ellen Urbani (mid-40s). Introduction from Ellen (daughter) When my mother was my age, she lost her left breast to […]

Joanne Shimotakahara

When Mom Was My Age (#12)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday (usually!). If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Joanne Shimotakahara, interviewed by her daughter Leslie Shimotakahara (age 32). 1. Tell me about where we lived when you were my age (32). We lived […]

Mimm Patterson

When Mom Was My Age (#11)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Bobbie, interviewed by her daughter Mimm Patterson (age 51). [From the daughter, Mimm] It’s funny how two people’s memories of a certain place and time […]

Jerlyn Kay Priest

When Mom Was My Age (#10)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Jerlyn Kay Priest, interviewed by her daughter Dayla Corcoran(age 36). Where did you live when you were 36 years old? Your Dad and I had […]

Lucy Emery

When Mom Was My Age (#9)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Lucy Fugiel Emery, interviewed by her daughter Dorothea Emery Duenow (age 34). Where did you live? We lived in Charleston, South Carolina, in Edgewater Park on […]

Sharon-Rebecca

When Mom Was My Age (#8)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Sharon, interviewed by her daughter Rebecca Huehls (age 33). Where did you live? I turned 33 in November 1979, and we moved into the house […]

I Heart Social Media

The Pure Heart and Pure Superficiality of Social Media

One of the classes I’m teaching at CCM requires me to study up on the history and practice of public relations. I’m not exactly a stranger to the profession. I worked for a major media company that has always employed publicists. I’ve written press releases. I count publicists and PR folks among my friends, right? […]

Janet Koops (age 40) | Janet Koops (2010)

When Mom Was My Age (#7)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Irene Sears, interviewed by her daughter Janet Koops (age 40). Tell me about where we lived. We lived in a bungalow in Scarborough (a suburb […]

Bobbi Cohen (age 40) | Bobbi Cohen (2010)

When Mom Was My Age (#6)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is Bobbi Cohen, interviewed by daughter Sage Cohen (age 40). Introduction by daughter Sage Cohen (age 40) In the conversation with my mother Barbara (Bobbi) Cohen below, […]

Martha Hill and Melissa Wuske

When Mom Was My Age (#5)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Martha Hill, interviewed by daughter Melissa Wuske (age 26). Where did you live? I lived where I live now, in Loveland, Ohio, in a brick […]

Elizabeth Klungle

When Mom Was My Age (#4)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Elizabeth Klungle, interviewed by daughter Nicole Klungle (age 40). Where did you live (in 1984)? I lived then where I live now—in a ranch […]

Sandi Ranchoff

When Mom Was My Age (#3)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Sandi Ranchoff, interviewed by daughter Christine Polomsky (age 40). Where did you live? I lived in Rocky River, Ohio, which was the area of […]

Kathleen Wieland

When Mom Was My Age (#2)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Kathleen Wieland, interviewed by daughter Vanessa Wieland (age 35). – Where did you live? I lived up on Grandview [Newport, KY], “the house up […]

Reading Notebook #22: Love, Grief, & Letting Go

From “A Cruel Country” [excerpts from Roland Barthes’ journals after his mother’s death] in The New Yorker (September 13, 2010): [Intro] Those who love Barthes are reminded, by his writing, of what true intimacy entails: supreme attunement alternating with bewildered estrangement. Instability—the instability of meaning, in particular—is his constant theme.  … In these excerpts, grief […]

Laura Friedman (1968, 2010)

When Mom Was My Age (#1)

The following post kicks off an interview series in which women interview their mothers, and ask what life was like when they were their age. Full credit for this idea goes to Bud Caddell. The very first post? An interview with my mother, who talks about her life at the age of 33. Where did […]

The Way of Zen

Reading Notebook #21: I Am Fleeting and Intangible

From The Way of Zen by Alan Watts (which I find myself re-reading and re-reading for fuller comprehension): We learn, very thoroughly though far less explicitly, to identify ourselves with an equally conventional view of “myself.” For the conventional “self” or “person” is composed mainly of a history consisting of selected memories, and beginning from the […]

My Most Valuable & Destructive Physical Possession

I’ve been keeping a journal off and on ever since I was about 12 years old. The earliest journals, written in hand, survive. During high school, for a brief period, I switched to disk, and promptly lost every disk by the time I graduated. So I got smarter, and started a habit of only journaling […]

The Way of Zen

Reading Notebook #20: Humanness Is Superior to Righteousness

From The Way of Zen by Alan Watts: It was a basic Confucian principle that “it is man who makes truth great, not truth which makes man great.” For this reason, “humanness” or “human-heartedness” was always felt to be superior to “righteousness,” since man himself is greater than any idea which he may invent. There are […]

Reading Notebook #19: Death As Liberation

From “Letting Go” by Atul Gawande in The New Yorker (August 2, 2010): Almost all these patients had known, for some time, that they had a terminal condition. Yet they—along with their doctors—were unprepared for the final stage. … Surveys of patients with terminal illness find that their top priorities include, in addition to avoiding […]

Svejk at 515 N Madison

I Distrust Too-Happy People

I may get myself into trouble with this one. But I’ve always been suspicious of happy people. I do NOT mean these people: People who are generally cheerful and fun to be around People who look for the opportunity or advantage in situations that don’t go their way People who love and accept who they […]

Cocktail Recipe: The Maestro Bellini

1 oz vodka 1 oz Cointreau 2 oz peach puree 6 oz Champagne 1 cherry Shake together first three ingredients and strain into a long, tall glass (with a cherry in the bottom). Add Champagne. Enjoy immensely. Recipe courtesy of  The Conductor

Reading Notebook #18: There’s More Bad Writing Than Ever

From an interview with Clay Shirky over at the Barnes and Noble Review: I’ve always adopted the Bill Burroughs mantra, which is, “If a thing is worth doing, it’s worth doing badly.” Which is to say that if there is any intrinsic value in writing or expressing yourself or taking a photo, it’s worth doing […]

Reading Notebook #16: Life Interferes With Work & Vice Versa

From Bill Murray interview in Entertainment Weekly (via TerryStarbucker.com): “I just really want to work when I want to work. Life interferes, you know. When you’re young and all you have is your career, some of your life can be in second place. And then you want your life to take first place, and other […]

Do Pain and Struggle Constitute a Fundamental Part of Love?

Artwork by Tonia Davenport—from her wonderful series “B&W and Red All Over” A while back, I read this relationship break-up anecdote at Galleycat, from a poetry-devoted reader: The book was a collection of love poems by William Carlos Williams. The poem was “Asphodel, that Greeny Flower.” And the specific line of the poem over which we […]

Reading Notebook #15: Americans Don’t Like to Listen

From a phenomenal personal essay: “Go West” by Peter Hessler in The New Yorker (April 19, 2010). Note: All of Hessler’s pieces for The New Yorker are incredible. The American appetite for loneliness impressed me, and there was something about this solitude that freed conversation. One night at a bar, I met a man, and […]

Kindle vs iPad

Reading Notebook #14: Best Coverage of Publishing’s Current Dilemma

Snippets from “Publish or Perish” by Ken Auletta (New Yorker, April 26, 2010). You MUST go read the full article. Excellent stats from article Independent booksellers have declined from 3,250 to 1,400 since 1999 Big Six publishers account for 60% of all books sold in the U.S. Breakdown of book sales in U.S. 30% – […]

Have the Courage to Follow Your Heart & Intuition

A wonderful commencement address from Steve Jobs. I love that he mentions life can only be lived forward, and understood backward (yeah! see my bio), and that, ultimately, we have nothing to lose. It sounds deceptively simple; most people don’t live by the advice he’s giving here.

Six Feet Under

Reading Notebook #13: What Makes You Happy Comes From the Inside

This is taken from a Salon interview with Alan Ball, creator of Six Feet Under—my most favorite TV series, with the most hard-hitting ending of all time. [Nate] just has the wrong idea of what’s going to make him happy. He feels that happiness comes from someone or something outside of himself. So he changes […]

Wonder Woman at Work

Can Excellent Advice Make You Unhappy?

There are a few people I read religiously for insight and perspective on work/business life. Probably on the top of the list: Seth Godin Mark Hurst (Good Experience) Jason Fried (37 Signals), read this Inc. article I’ve just had a sudden epiphany about this reading I do. Maybe you can tell me if it’s really […]

Brussels Sprouts

How to Fall in Love With Brussels Sprouts (Prepare Them Correctly!)

Over Easter, The Conductor and I visited a high-end restaurant to treat ourselves to an extravagant Easter brunch buffet. Now, you might say our first mistake was going to a buffet. And that our second mistake was going to an Easter buffet. But it was a high-end restaurant—and a newly opened one at that. Wouldn’t […]

Reading Notebook #12: Existential Angst at Work

From Kenny Moore’s blog post, “Losing Your Job? Psychological, Spiritual & Practical Advice.” This is the most meaningful discussion I have ever read about what causes angst/anxiety at work. Must-read. (All of Kenny Moore’s posts are valuable and thought-provoking; he’s a former monk who now counsels corporates.) In corporate life, if you’re good at solving […]

Reading Notebook #11: The Source of (My) Anxiety

Transcribed from Examined Life (Zeitgeist Films), the words of Avital Ronnell. If we’re not anxious, if we’re okay with things, we’re not trying to explore or figure anything out. So anxiety is the mood of ethicity. Now I’m not proscribing anxiety disorder for anyone. … This is something Derrida has taught. If you feel that […]

Committed

Reading Notebook #10: How to Destroy a Relationship

From the marvelous Elizabeth Gilbert, in her book Committed: There is nothing wrong with a married person launching a friendship outside of matrimony—so long as the “walls and windows” of the relationship remain in the correct places. It was Glass’s theory that every healthy marriage is composed of walls and windows. The windows are the […]

The Story of Your Life IS Your Life

On my Facebook profile, I state my religious beliefs as “The story of your life becomes your life.” After my happiness post, I realized I didn’t comment on one of the key linchpins in happiness: storytelling. Daniel Kahneman, in his excellent TED talk above, speaks to two different kinds of selves: The experiencing self, or […]