Deborah Owen & mother Ruth Crayton

When Mom Was My Age (#32)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Ruth Crayton (age 93), reflecting on her life at age 69, interviewed by daughter Deborah Owen. Where did you live at age 69? My husband […]

Gillian & Katy Lassetter

When Mom Was My Age (#31)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Gillian Lassetter (age 63), reflecting on her life at age 29, interviewed by daughter Katy Lassetter. Where did you live when you were 29? I […]

When Mom Was My Age (#30)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Ruth (age 68), reflecting on her life at age 48, interviewed by daughter Beth Moschetto. Where did you live? Your dad had just accepted a […]

Linda Jones (age 64)

When Mom Was My Age (#29)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Linda Jones (age 63), reflecting on her life at age 34, interviewed by daughter Rayne Devivo. Where did you live? Same place we do right […]

Kathy Thiel and daughter Krista Thiel

When Mom Was My Age (#28)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Kathy Thiel about her life at age 33, interviewed by daughter Kristin Thiel (age 33). Where did you live? I was living in a northwest […]

Gigi Amateau (age 17 & age 46)

When Mom Was My Age (#27)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Gigi Amateau (age 46), interviewed by daughter Judith Amateau (age 17). From Judith Throughout my life, my mom has been many different things to me—a […]

Christine Becraft & Sophie Becraft

When Mom Was My Age (#26)

We’re back after a brief hiatus! “When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Christine Lisa Becraft (age 46), interviewed by daughter Sophie Kona Becraft (age 11). Where did you live when […]

Evelyn Schwartz, 1985 & 2010

When Mom Was My Age (#25)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Evelyn Schwartz, interviewed by daughter Laura Cerwinske (age 63). From Laura I am now 63, and in 1985, when my mother Evelyn was my age, […]

Jane Rusbridge & daughter Natalie Miller

When Mom Was My Age (#24)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Jane Rusbridge, interviewed by daughter Natalie Miller (age 22). After attempting to move out of the family home twice, I am now back again, trying […]

Reading Notebook #31: A Writer’s Appetite for Fame

From “Writing and Winning” by Adam Gopnik, The New Yorker (October 18, 2010). Click here to read the full piece. Since the first strum on the oldest lyre, literature has been about competition and the possibility of recognition. Pindar, the father of lyric poetry, took as his chief subject the winning of games, and the […]

Reading Notebook #30: Existential Reasons for Procrastination

From “Later” by James Surowiecki, The New Yorker (October 11, 2010). Click here to read the full article online. But before we rush to overcome procrastination we should consider whether it is sometimes an impulse we should heed. The philosopher Mark Kingwell puts it in existential terms: “Procrastination most often arises from a sense that […]

Reading Notebook #29: When the Author Became More Important Than the Publisher

From “Talent Grab” by Malcolm Gladwell, The New Yorker (October 11, 2010) … a parallel revolution was taking place in the publishing world, as authors and their agents began to rewrite the terms of their relationship with publishers. One of the instigators of that revolution was Mort Janklow, a corporate lawyer who, in 1972, did […]

Dorothy & Peggy

When Mom Was My Age (#23)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with a daughter, mother, and grandmother!  Daughter Teresa Coates interviews Peggy (her mom) and Dorothy (her grandmother), talking about their lives at age 40. Pictured above: […]

Jane at AWP 2011

3 Boring Elements of Success

I don’t think my age is a secret, but just to be clear: I’m 34. Sometimes when I speak at conferences, people say they expected someone older. I’ve been hearing this since 2002. I think there are a variety of reasons for this—not least among them that many decision makers in publishing are younger than […]

Sheila Van Noy

When Mom Was My Age (#22)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Sheila Van Noy, interviewed by daughter Nikki Van Noy (age 33). From daughter Nikki When mom was 33, there were no cell phones, computers, or […]

Mary Carolyn Steffen Carlson (age 46 & age 73)

When Mom Was My Age (#21)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Mary Carolyn Steffen Carlson (now age 73), interviewed by daughter Stephanie Carlson Curtis (age 46). Where did you live when you were my age (46)? […]

Andrea King Collier

When Mom Was My Age (#20)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Andrea King Collier (author of Still With Me: A Daughter’s Journey of Love and Loss), who is interviewed by her daughter, Nicole Collier, a broadcast […]

Solitude by Anthony Storr

Reading Notebook #28: Happiness Without Close Relationships

From Solitude by Anthony Storr: Many fortunate people do make intimate relationships which continue until death, and which constitute their major source of happiness. But even the closest relationship is bound to have flaws and disadvantages, and it is often because people do not accept this that they are more unhappy than they need to be, […]

Peggi Colleen Gibson Tattoli

When Mom Was My Age (#19)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Peggi Colleen Gibson Tattoli (now age 47), interviewed by daughter Chantel Tattoli (age 22). From Chantel When my mother and I catch sight of each other, […]

Margaret Malone & Mom

When Mom Was My Age (#18)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Sue Malone, by daughter Margaret Malone (age 36). Where did you live? I was living in Mill Valley, Calif., with my husband and you, our […]

Chief Culture Officer

Study Slow Culture, Not Just Fast

When I attended TEDxCincy in October 2010, there was one session where I was furiously taking notes: the session by Grant McCracken, author of Chief Culture Officer. Click here to find out more about the fascinating McCracken. [For more on my so-so experience of TEDxCincy, read “7 Lessons for Delivering a Powerful Message.”] So, here’s […]

Solitude by Anthony Storr

Reading Notebook #27: What to Do When Your Existence May Need to Be Reappraised

From Solitude by Anthony Storr: The capacity to be alone is a valuable resource when changes of mental attitude are required. After major alterations in circumstances, fundamental reappraisal of the significance and meaning of existence may be needed. … Changes of attitude take time because our ways of thinking about life and ourselves so easily become […]

Gaby Levine (at age 48 & in 2010)

When Mom Was My Age (#17)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Gaby Levine, interviewed by daughter Becky Levine (age 48). From daughter Becky My mother started writing her memoirs a few years ago, so when I […]

C.G. Jung

Reading Notebook #26: Difficulties Are Necessary for Health

From C.G. Jung’s The Transcendant Function: Collected Works: The new attitude gained in the course of analysis tends sooner or later to become inadequate in one way or another, and necessarily so, because the flow of life again and again demands fresh adaptation. Adaptation is never achieved once and for all. … In the last […]

C.G. Jung

Reading Notebook #25: Accepting the Positive and the Negative

From an essay by C.G. Jung, where he quotes a patient: Out of evil, much good has come to me. By keeping quiet, repressing nothing, remaining attentive, and by accepting reality—taking things as they are, and not as I wanted them to be—by doing all this, unusual knowledge has come to me, and unusual powers […]

Solitude by Anthony Storr

Reading Notebook #24: Our Life at the Office Is (In Fact) Important

From Solitude by Anthony Storr: Human beings need a sense of being part of a larger community than that constituted by the family. The modern assumption that intimate relationships are essential to personal fulfillment tends to make us neglect the significance of relationships which are not so intimate. … The fact that a man is […]

Mary with daughter Meg (age 35 & age 62)

When Mom Was My Age (#16)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Mary Gerritsen, interviewed by daughter Meg Canada (age 35). From daughter Meg My mom is 62 and she’s been married to my dad for 42 […]

The Man Without Qualities

Reading Notebook #23: Why Things Are the Way They Are

From The Man Without Qualities by Robert Musil: “At this moment he wished to be a man without qualities. But this is probably not so different from what other people sometimes feel too. After all, by the time they have reached the middle of their life’s journey few people remember how they have managed to […]

Amelia B's mother

When Mom Was My Age (#15)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with the mother of Amelia B. (age 43).               From daughter Amelia I am 43 and my mother is 72. I […]

Ilie Ruby's mother

When Mom Was My Age (#14)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with the mother of Ilie Ruby (age 44). Where did you live? I lived in a condominium in a complex in Rochester, NY. What did you […]

Katie Urbani

When Mom Was My Age (#13)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Katie Urbani, interviewed by her daughter Ellen Urbani (mid-40s). Introduction from Ellen (daughter) When my mother was my age, she lost her left breast to […]

Joanne Shimotakahara

When Mom Was My Age (#12)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday (usually!). If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Joanne Shimotakahara, interviewed by her daughter Leslie Shimotakahara (age 32). 1. Tell me about where we lived when you were my age (32). We lived […]

Mimm Patterson

When Mom Was My Age (#11)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Bobbie, interviewed by her daughter Mimm Patterson (age 51). [From the daughter, Mimm] It’s funny how two people’s memories of a certain place and time […]

Jerlyn Kay Priest

When Mom Was My Age (#10)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Jerlyn Kay Priest, interviewed by her daughter Dayla Corcoran(age 36). Where did you live when you were 36 years old? Your Dad and I had […]

Lucy Emery

When Mom Was My Age (#9)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Lucy Fugiel Emery, interviewed by her daughter Dorothea Emery Duenow (age 34). Where did you live? We lived in Charleston, South Carolina, in Edgewater Park on […]

Sharon-Rebecca

When Mom Was My Age (#8)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Sharon, interviewed by her daughter Rebecca Huehls (age 33). Where did you live? I turned 33 in November 1979, and we moved into the house […]

I Heart Social Media

The Pure Heart and Pure Superficiality of Social Media

One of the classes I’m teaching at CCM requires me to study up on the history and practice of public relations. I’m not exactly a stranger to the profession. I worked for a major media company that has always employed publicists. I’ve written press releases. I count publicists and PR folks among my friends, right? […]

Janet Koops (age 40) | Janet Koops (2010)

When Mom Was My Age (#7)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Irene Sears, interviewed by her daughter Janet Koops (age 40). Tell me about where we lived. We lived in a bungalow in Scarborough (a suburb […]

Bobbi Cohen (age 40) | Bobbi Cohen (2010)

When Mom Was My Age (#6)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is Bobbi Cohen, interviewed by daughter Sage Cohen (age 40). Introduction by daughter Sage Cohen (age 40) In the conversation with my mother Barbara (Bobbi) Cohen below, […]

Martha Hill and Melissa Wuske

When Mom Was My Age (#5)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Martha Hill, interviewed by daughter Melissa Wuske (age 26). Where did you live? I lived where I live now, in Loveland, Ohio, in a brick […]

Elizabeth Klungle

When Mom Was My Age (#4)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Elizabeth Klungle, interviewed by daughter Nicole Klungle (age 40). Where did you live (in 1984)? I lived then where I live now—in a ranch […]

Sandi Ranchoff

When Mom Was My Age (#3)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Sandi Ranchoff, interviewed by daughter Christine Polomsky (age 40). Where did you live? I lived in Rocky River, Ohio, which was the area of […]

Kathleen Wieland

When Mom Was My Age (#2)

“When Mom Was My Age” is an interview series between daughters and mothers. New interviews appear every Monday. If you would like to participate, contact Jane. The following interview is with Kathleen Wieland, interviewed by daughter Vanessa Wieland (age 35). – Where did you live? I lived up on Grandview [Newport, KY], “the house up […]

Reading Notebook #22: Love, Grief, & Letting Go

From “A Cruel Country” [excerpts from Roland Barthes’ journals after his mother’s death] in The New Yorker (September 13, 2010): [Intro] Those who love Barthes are reminded, by his writing, of what true intimacy entails: supreme attunement alternating with bewildered estrangement. Instability—the instability of meaning, in particular—is his constant theme.  … In these excerpts, grief […]

Laura Friedman (1968, 2010)

When Mom Was My Age (#1)

The following post kicks off an interview series in which women interview their mothers, and ask what life was like when they were their age. Full credit for this idea goes to Bud Caddell. The very first post? An interview with my mother, who talks about her life at the age of 33. Where did […]

The Way of Zen

Reading Notebook #21: I Am Fleeting and Intangible

From The Way of Zen by Alan Watts (which I find myself re-reading and re-reading for fuller comprehension): We learn, very thoroughly though far less explicitly, to identify ourselves with an equally conventional view of “myself.” For the conventional “self” or “person” is composed mainly of a history consisting of selected memories, and beginning from the […]

My Most Valuable & Destructive Physical Possession

I’ve been keeping a journal off and on ever since I was about 12 years old. The earliest journals, written in hand, survive. During high school, for a brief period, I switched to disk, and promptly lost every disk by the time I graduated. So I got smarter, and started a habit of only journaling […]

The Way of Zen

Reading Notebook #20: Humanness Is Superior to Righteousness

From The Way of Zen by Alan Watts: It was a basic Confucian principle that “it is man who makes truth great, not truth which makes man great.” For this reason, “humanness” or “human-heartedness” was always felt to be superior to “righteousness,” since man himself is greater than any idea which he may invent. There are […]

Reading Notebook #19: Death As Liberation

From “Letting Go” by Atul Gawande in The New Yorker (August 2, 2010): Almost all these patients had known, for some time, that they had a terminal condition. Yet they—along with their doctors—were unprepared for the final stage. … Surveys of patients with terminal illness find that their top priorities include, in addition to avoiding […]

Svejk at 515 N Madison

I Distrust Too-Happy People

I may get myself into trouble with this one. But I’ve always been suspicious of happy people. I do NOT mean these people: People who are generally cheerful and fun to be around People who look for the opportunity or advantage in situations that don’t go their way People who love and accept who they […]